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My Man Is A Super Hero! Is Yours?
Last modified on 2010-02-15 07:16:00 GMT. 3 comments. Top.
Wouldn’t it be cool if you could have a man that was part human and part superhero or even machine?
I just finished watching the latest Terminator (don’t know which # since there’s been so many
and I thought Marcus Wright (Sam Worthington) was pretty hott! Now for all of you who may not have seen Terminator Salvation, please check it out (there’s a trailer below). Since I don’t want to give away the movie I’ll just focus in on why I think Marcus is hot.In short, Marcus Wright is human with machinery integrated into his body. On the outside he looks human, flesh, blood, the whole nine yards. Okay, so I know you’re thinking “Isn’t that just like all the other terminators?” True, except for the fact that Marcus doesn’t know he’s part machine nor does he feel like he’s anything other than human. It isn’t until an accident occurs that he finds the truth about what he really is. But, the cool thing is that even after finding out that he’s part machine, the humanity in him fails to change. Marcus continues to demonstrate human like qualities and behavior such as caring, thoughtfulness, protection, and other human emotions.
So, what’s my point with this whole thing? Well, I found it quite attractive that he was like a super human. I began to think hmmm… “If these type of guys were around would I seriously be interested?” (smh) And my answer was, yes! Why? Because, he had the same human qualities as I mentioned but he could also defend and protect the household like no other, which I think is important.
Just think about Lois Lane and Superman. What was the attraction there? Do you think she ever worried about something happening to him? Or ever felt unsafe while with him? And, why did she never give Clark Kent a second look even though they were the same person? I’ll tell you why, one had that superhero quality that women find attractive. It’s plain and simple!
Another cool thing about Marcus Wright was that since he was part machine he could fix anything (now isn’t that nice not having to worry about stuff around the house breaking down). And, like a computer he could download information, so anything he doesn’t know he can learn in minutes! Now, I don’t know about you but, he truly could be my Mr. Wright (had to play off of that it was too easy
Unfortunately, this man doesn’t exist yet
So until he does what’s a girl to do? Well, don’t just sit there and wait for Bill Gates to make him, lol, go find your superhero! He may not be like Marcus Wright or Superman, but, he can be all that you need.Here’s what my ideal superhero looks like:
1. Provide- A man should be able to provide the things that his family needs i.e. food, shelter, clothing, etc.
2. Protect- A man should be able to protect and shield his family from those who may want to cause harm to them in any way. You should feel safe with him, know that he’s got your back 100% and he will protect your name and honor at all costs.
3. Communicate- A man should be able to communicate with you about how he feels, what he needs, wants, etc. in a manner that creates open and healthy discussions and growth.
4. Respect- A man should always respect you as an individual and as his woman. This means that he always has your best interest at heart, will never allow you to feel less of a person and always treat you like a lady(hello, I’m talking about chivalry).
5. Appreciate- A man should appreciate the gifts and talents you bring to the relationship whether they be monetary, supportive, physical, companionship, through trust, etc. He should see what you have to offer and be grateful you chose him.
6. Cherish- A man should cherish you as his woman by acknowledging your true value and worth to him. He should know that without you he will never be at his best.
7. Allow- A man should allow you to be who you are in all its glory. Allow you to make mistakes, grow, and explore without stifling your freedom or growth as a person.
Now ladies, don’t take this information and go crazy with it, lol. You must also demonstrate that you are a women of class who expects and is deserving of such a man to bestow these superhero qualities upon you. If you have a super man already remind him and yourself why you chose each other and let him know that he’s your super hero and why.
If you always act like a true woman that is befitting of a such a high quality, rare breed, such as this coveted superhero, then you will find/keep each other and never let go.
Oh yea, John Conner (Christian Bale) was working it too, now that’s an example of a real Superman you can go find!
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Now tell me about your current or future superhero. What makes him so super human sexy?
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All My Single Ladies…
Last modified on 2010-02-05 23:50:49 GMT. 1 comment. Top.
Tell me your thoughts and what you think is the solution…
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What Is Your Love Label Poll?
Last modified on 2010-02-05 07:55:49 GMT. 1 comment. Top.
Vote below first then click here to find out what your response means…
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What Does Your Love Label Mean?
Last modified on 2010-02-07 09:22:06 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
WAIT click here to take this poll first, then continue reading! Trust me it will make more sense
The reality is that all of the love labels from the above list—from the very best vantage point of dating to the
worst—can be true for you depending on the day (or the hour!). In dating, and in life for that matter, we settle on a perspective and then we collect evidence to support our outlook. If you believe that all men are jerks, you will inevitably spot all the jerks around town. You may even date a number of them. If you wear the label “Always the friend”, I can assure you that most men won’t see you as the sexy woman you are.
You may be so accustomed to the negative self-talk that you have forgotten you actually have a choice in the matter! Perspective is a choice you make every day. With a little practice, you can teach yourself to reframe a situation to find the lesson, the blessing or at least the humor in dates or relationships that do not work out.
Does that mean you have to grin and bear it each time a guy who you would not even consider being with rejects you first? You are certainly entitled to days during which you vent and complain about bad dates, but if you are single and hoping to find a partner, you must commit to wearing a more permanent love label that embraces a positive perspective about yourself, the men around you and the process. Doing this is easier than you may realize because somewhere inside, you do have faith in the process or you would have already given up on dating completely.
My dating dare for you this month is to try on a new positive love label, justify why it’s true and commit to saying it every day. Once you do this, notice who you attract and see who shows up. More importantly—see how you show up.
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Andrea Syrtash is an author, advice columnist, and the host of ‘On Dating’, produced by NBC Digital Studios. Her advice has been featured on NBC’s Today, USA Today and NPR, among others. She has contributed to over a dozen relationship-advice books. Her new book, “He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing)”, will be published in April 2010. Between 2007-2009 Andrea Syrtash was a Google ‘hot trend’, ranking in the top 100 things googled on particular days. She has no idea how that happened, but appreciates the (very post-modern) honor. For more, please visit AndreaSyrtash.com
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Relationships: My Boyfriend Left Me Drunk At A Party
Last modified on 2009-11-03 07:30:48 GMT. 5 comments. Top.
I have a question to ask; first let me set up the scenario:
Two young couples go on vacation to Mexico for 7 days. The girls are best friends and the guys are their boyfriends. They are having a great time meeting new people, partying, sightseeing, laying on the beach, etc.
On the very last day of their visit, there is a huge beach party for the hotel guests. Everyone is intoxicated, dancing around the bonfire, swimming in the ocean and just enjoying their last day in paradise.
One of the girls, from the couples, gets so drunk that she can’t even stay standing. She repeatedly falls to the floor but she is in good spirits, laughing and dancing the whole time. Her boyfriend suggests that they call it a night since she was clearly out of it; she insists on staying at the party with the other couple. So the boyfriend goes to the hotel room alone and leaves her at this crazy party.
Seconds after the drunk girl’s boyfriend leaves, she is hanging all over a foreign guy who is at this party. She’s dancing with him, touching him, and eventually kisses him. The girl’s best friend finally stops her from going any further.
My question is:
If the drunk girl were to go “all the way” with this foreign guy at the party who’s to blame? And should she be forgiven?
Now it may seem as if there’s a simple answer. But let’s think about this… The boyfriend, who should be looking out for his girlfriend, saw her drunk out of her mind and instead of insisting that she go with him, left her there. And of course, there’s the fact that the girl is grown and should take responsibility for herself and her actions.
Thank goodness her best friend was there otherwise who knows what would have happened.
This brings me to another question:
If your significant other is stupid drunk, would you leave them to fend for themselves, or would you insist they come with you?
Tell me what’s on your mind ladies and gentlemen!
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Relationships: 3 Simple Tips To Survive A Bad Date
Last modified on 2010-02-06 09:10:58 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
If you’re ready to learn what you can do next time you find yourself with “Mr. Oh So Wrong,” read on.
Scenario 1: You’re on a date at an elegant restaurant with an absolutely gorgeous man. You may be thinking, how could this possibly be bad?
Then he opens his mouth and begins to talk and talk and talk, not about something deeply profound or even relatively interesting, but about himself. He doesn’t ask about you once or show interest in anything other than what makes him so great.
Every time he takes a breath you try to jump in, but it’s no use, he just talks right over you. You get so tired of hearing his voice you just want to yell, “SHUT UP!” But of course being the polite lady that you are, you smile and nod, enabling this conceited motormouth to continue rambling.
The Plan: Since you know by now that he’s got a great job, you can allow yourself to take advantage of this information. How about enjoying anything on the menu? Next, order a few cocktails. This will not only allow you to tolerate him, but you might find some humor in the situation as well. Eventually this nightmare will end and you will never have to speak to this date, or should I say hear him speak, again.
Scenario 2: You’re with a guy with whom you seem to connect and feel comfortable almost instantly. He does and says all the right things to make you believe that he is such a sweet guy. Then you notice him glance at a woman passing by. Okay, no big deal, right?
Throughout the night you see him checking out other women. Even when the two of you are in the middle of what seems to be a great conversation, his eyes just continue to wander.
The Plan: At some point, excuse yourself to go outside for some fresh air. On your way there, find a sexy guy to flirt with. Have fun, exchange numbers, but don’t stay too long.
Then return to your date and occasionally make eye contact with your new friend. If you’re date mentions your behavior, just innocently tell him that you thought that it was okay to admire those of the opposite sex since he seemed to do it so well. If this doesn’t wake him up at least you’ve got another option for later.
Scenario 3: You are out on a date with a guy who clearly has no kind of home training. He acts as if he were raised by wild monkeys. You think to yourself, is he serious? Does he really burp as loudly as humanly possible, shovel food into his mouth while talking, and suck and pick at his teeth when he’s done with his meal? You’ve got to be kidding me; this has to be some sort of prank.
As these questions run through your mind you feel as if everyone is watching and wondering what’s wrong with you. The feeling of embarrassment makes you blush and want to sink under the table.
The Plan: This situation may call for some seriously drastic measures. Very discreetly pull out your cell phone and text your friend 911. Use this code because it’s quick and easy. Once your girl sees the message she will know that you need to be called immediately.
As soon as you get the call act as if your friend is going through some sort of crisis and needs you by her side right now. Tell your date that you’re sorry you can’t enjoy his lovely company anymore and that he has definitely made it a memorable night.
I know there are many more nightmare date scenarios, but this gives you a basic idea of what you can do with almost any bad date.
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Crazy Blind Date…WTF?
Last modified on 2010-02-02 07:45:21 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to be open-minded, adventurous, and a little crazy! What do you think about being a little spontaneous and going on a blind date with a total stranger? There is an online dating service that offers a “Crazy Blind Date” meet up. You enter your information about who you are willing to meet. You are then contacted for a last minute, totally blind date in a public place. If you are a little nervous, you can select for a group outing.CrazyBlindDate is a fairly new dating site, active in eight cities right now (New York, L.A., Boston, D.C., San Francisco, Chicago, Austin and Atlanta). Just think, you can be set up on blind dates very last minute (like for tonight). There are no profiles, no photos–hence the “crazy.” Their target market is “really fun, adventurous and spontaneous people…who are trying to get out of a dating rut or just want some kind of ‘crazy’ night out.”
Have you ever been set up on a blind date before? Did it turn out to be successful?
Do you think single people need to take more risks in meeting new people? Are we anti-blind date because of the rejection factor or because we are too shallow?
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Relationships: 6 Reasons Your BFF and BF Don’t Get Along
Last modified on 2009-11-18 03:39:13 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
Most commonly best friends don’t like the boyfriend because:
- They Are Jealous- plain and simple jealousy. She wants what you have and doesn’t want you to have it. If this is the case she is not your BFF for life she is a hater and needs to be disposed of immediately.
- You Neglect Your BFF- sometimes when women get boyfriends they get so caught up in the relationship that they forget about everyone else around them. They don’t acquire the skill of how to manage time between the boyfriend and others such as the BFF. Stop to think if this may be you. If it is, the simple solution is to include your best friend in your life don’t push her away because if things don’t work out who’s shoulder will you be crying on?
- She’s Trying to Protect You- maybe there are negative things your BFF knows about your boyfriend that she has failed to share with you. Maybe this is because she thinks you may not believe her or maybe she heard some sort of rumor. This is what BFF’s are for, to help you see things you can not when you’re blinded by love. Maybe her thoughts are valid check him out and observe him for yourself. Although he is great today, tomorrow he can be completely different.
- He is Rude and Disrespects Your BFF- when the two of them are together does he put her down, tell jokes about her that she doesn’t find amusing, yell at her, call her names or any other behaviors that would make her feel uncomfortable? If this is the case you need to drop that man no questions asked, period.
- He is a Bad Influence On You- have you changed who you are to fit in with him? Did you lose your identity and pick up his? Think about the things that you did before you were with him and the things you’ve been doing since you have been together. Have you become a better person or worse? You should never change who you are or your values for anyone, especially for a man. Keeping you self-respect is key in life and you don’t want to lose sight of that.
- He’s a Bum- this guy is just a good for nothing waste of space. He eats all your food, stays at your house rent free, drives your car since he doesn’t have one of his own, barely works, spends your money and who knows what else. Some women enjoy being caregivers if this is you, so be it. But understand that your BFF wants the best for you and she, nor I, can see how this adds to your life. A relationship should be something that is uplifting and not a burden. Your partner needs to bring something to the table otherwise he will continue to take things from that table. Decide what you want and ask your BFF to respect your decision.
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Quiz: Your Love & Personal Life; Are Your Scales Tipped To One Side?
Last modified on 2009-11-02 05:30:41 GMT. 0 comments. Top.
