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The reality is that all of the love labels from the above list—from the very best vantage point of dating to the

worst—can be true for you depending on the day (or the hour!). In dating, and in life for that matter, we settle on a perspective and then we collect evidence to support our outlook. If you believe that all men are jerks, you will inevitably spot all the jerks around town. You may even date a number of them. If you wear the label “Always the friend”, I can assure you that most men won’t see you as the sexy woman you are.

You may be so accustomed to the negative self-talk that you have forgotten you actually have a choice in the matter! Perspective is a choice you make every day. With a little practice, you can teach yourself to reframe a situation to find the lesson, the blessing or at least the humor in dates or relationships that do not work out.

Does that mean you have to grin and bear it each time a guy who you would not even consider being with rejects you first? You are certainly entitled to days during which you vent and complain about bad dates, but if you are single and hoping to find a partner, you must commit to wearing a more permanent love label that embraces a positive perspective about yourself, the men around you and the process. Doing this is easier than you may realize because somewhere inside, you do have faith in the process or you would have already given up on dating completely.

My dating dare for you this month is to try on a new positive love label, justify why it’s true and commit to saying it every day. Once you do this, notice who you attract and see who shows up. More importantly—see how you show up.

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Andrea Syrtash is an author, advice columnist, and the host of ‘On Dating’, produced by NBC Digital Studios. Her advice has been featured on NBC’s Today, USA Today and NPR, among others. She has contributed to over a dozen relationship-advice books. Her new book, “He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing)”, will be published in April 2010. Between 2007-2009 Andrea Syrtash was a Google ‘hot trend’, ranking in the top 100 things googled on particular days. She has no idea how that happened, but appreciates the (very post-modern) honor. For more, please visit AndreaSyrtash.com

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